is he/she the one?

Have you ever asked your self "is he/she the one for me?", "am i really love him/her?", "is he/she really love him?" or " is he/she the right person for me?" or maybe those question is not really matters for you. what matters is "am i ready to settle down?", "Do I have a strong commitment in building a marriage life?"

The first four questions are important for us especially for a modern woman/man who has a modern views of a relationship. We need to be sure that when we decide to get married, he/she should be someone that right for you, someone who has the thing that you want or expect. Someone you love and vice versa. But,

do you all think that those question are the most important?

In my view, as a modern woman, i do will think all of those questions are important. However, i wouldn't take it as the main concern. We wouldn't know whether the man/women is the one for us, maybe we made it to the wedding, but if later we have a problem, is he/she still be the one? and if we thing negatively, it could lead to a divorce, then we will re-think and find out that he/she is not the one for us.

What about love? Is love important? well, of course..

It must be a happiest thing in the world if we can get married to someone we love.

But, is it the most important?

I am curious... 

A lot of girl who has an arranged marriage for her, found that he love his husband (soon or later).

Another question that come across my mind, is the couple still talking about love after years of marriage?

I think, love only  happens in the first period of marriage. They are still overwhelmed with a wedding, being together, love that lead to sex and everything. But after let say 15 years of marriage, that would be the main concern. I never see my  mother overwhelmed by love in her 37 years of marriage. I only see my mums and my daddy taking care of each other, never see how they express love to one another.

For me, the most important thing is understanding and the willing of understanding each other. 

It's all about "willing".

When you decide to be with someone, we always see whether he/she understanding us, or whether we feel comfort around him/her. But i think is not enough. I think the most important thing is the willing of understanding, the willing to keep making our partner feel comfort. 

Sometime we might feel she/he is the one who understand us, but have you ever thing that he/she only understand us in surface. What i mean is, she/he only understand us for only a tiny of our behavior. There's a lot of thing that she/he doesn't know yet. will she/he understand if one day we expose something that she/he never expect before?

In brief, I just want to say, if you want to make a decision with whom do you wanna spent the rest of your life with, you have to make sure, that he/she is the one who has a strong willing to make it right. a good will of understanding, person who can take you as you are.

And if it is a man, we a women, need someone who has a willing of understanding, responsibility, cares, etc. and if it is a women, the man need a women who has a willing of understanding, the willing to obey all of the man's order and of course attention.

I could write as above, but, i am not as perfect as you think. I am still trying it. And i have the willing to do that.

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