Hal yang perlu ditanya sebelum menikah

Akhir-akhir ini banyak temen q yang menikah.. seneng bgt dengernya. And kayaknya siy bakal ada yang menyusul juga.. Terinspirasi dari orang2 yang baru/akan menikah, I just wonder, are they doing the things like i did before they are getting married?

well, dulu sebelum menikah, ada hal-hal yang aq bicarakan ama si calon suami, jadi istilahnya di cocokin maunya kita and dya. Pengennya buat perjanjian pranikah, tapi kayaknya dya ga mau and persepsi orang ama perjanjian pranikah masih negatif. Mereka nganggapnya perjanjian itu kyk persiapan sebelum cerai. Padahal menurut aq isinya bukan hanya ngurus kearah yang begituan, toh konsekuensi di dalam perjanjian kan hasil diskusi kedua belah pihak.

anyway, jadi hal-hal yang aq tanyain itu yah di antaranya:

Why we lie in a relationship

Trust is the most important thing in relationship, but somehow, sometime we cannot avoid to lie. If you someday caught your spouse lying, don't just straight away yelling or asking to break up. What you have to do is to find out why exactly she/he lie to you, trying to discuss what is really happen to both of you. And perhaps those lies is triggered by your own behaviour/action.

I guess there are some reason why people lie in a relationship. Lets see *some of them is based on my own experience*

Salah didik kah kita?

Pernah ga siy kalian memikirkan kenapa orang indonesa ini begitu bobrok? *ga semua juga ya*

atau

Pernah ga siy kalian memikirkan kenapa orang western yang notabene ga punya agama bisa lebih beradab daripada kita yang punya agama?

The rason that come first to my mind is perhaps because of poverty and of course EDUCATION.

As I said before, it all because of our education. Perhaps part of culture made us like that. Remember that in east culture especially in our country, we have to live by caring and helping each other a.k.a "gotong royong" but when it comes to our life, the gotong royong is miss used. Why I say so?

Well, actually it is a very good way of living, caring and helping people. but sometime when we care to much, it tend to be like interfering other people businesses or at least it ignite gossips. Maybe yes, at the end they will help, but after they doing such a bad behaviour like that?? (it's a big no no for me). And Of course, not all of problem can be solved by other people. Actually we the one who doing it by ourself.

And Maybe.. cara didikan qita yang salah, sehingga setelah qta besar qta terbawa dengan keadaan itu. Contoh behaviour yg paling bobrok di manusia endonesa:

Dasar Manusia!

Lucu yah ketika qta liat orang yang sok-sok an.. *bukan sok, beda arti*. Sumpah, muak and sebel banget liatnya.

Orang yang klo udah keliatan sok-sok an pasti ajah bisa di notice easily by me. Ntah kenapa juga aq bisa tau. Bawaan badannya or body languagenya kali yah, shows when you act something like that.

Contohnya yah.. klo ada orang sok cantek, pasti gelagatnya itu beda. perasaan dya lah cewek paling sempurna. gerak-geriknya itu laen dri biasanya, pokoknya susah di describe. Padahal yah orang2 dah muak liatnya *khususnya orang berpendidikan kyk aq.. hehehe*

Ntah kenapa akhir-akhir ini sering kali ketemu ama orang yang sok-sok an. Klo mank kenyataan nya begitu yah ga masalah, klo ga.. yah langsung keliatan "kamseupay nya" *pake bahasa gaul skr :D*

Contoh yang paling sering aq liat itu yah:

orang yang sok baek *di depan doang*, 

sok berkuasa *so bossy* macem sok-sok udah jadi pejabat gitoh, 

sok cantek *merasa byk co yang suka*, 

sok kaya *bilang bru shopping ini, jalan kesini, dll padahal kadang juga ngutang minjam tuh*, 

sok sibuk *klo di depan orang yg penting, macam sibuk kali gayanya ku tengok, mondar-mandir kesana kemari atau klo ada kerjaan dikit serasa buanyak banget*,